Monday, January 14, 2008

Sexes thinking Sex

We have been watching a TV show called NCIS on DVD. There has been much talk about the differences between the sexes. And well it got me to thinking..... Why is it always assumed that only men think about sex in regards to every woman they meet? Most of the women (heterosexual) I have had chats with about such things admit that they at least 'probably' judge or categorize men upon seeing/meeting them. We perhaps wait till we get a feeling for them before a final judgment is made but besides going past the initial physical judgment I see little difference in the fact that we do place people in a category of some type relating to sexual interest. We perhaps don't spend as much time fantasizing about the person if they would be sexually desirable to us. Ack I don't have time right now to fish my thoughts but wanted to post befor I left. I just now I'm not the only woman who has the supposedly manly trait of sexual classification in regards to the men in her life. Not that many men are worthy or desirable on some days and on other days well it seems anything goes. So perhaps that is the main difference between me and the guys I know. They tend to be more willing to experiment on a regular basis but less flexible in the initial assessment. My initial assessment is open for change and I can be much more experimental or much less experimental depending on my moods.

BUT then again I'm in a long term relationship and am not on the prowl so my sexual temperment is only inflicted upon one victim/luckyman. Just dwelling on the over sexualization of men and under sexualization of women in our culture. I think women perhaps have more of a leaning towards quality of quantity and men prefer the later because they don't strive for the former. Then again that is me talking about the stereotypical 'average man' as very many of the guys I know are HUGE into quality and then both want quantity. I think thats hy I don't always think that one should wait till after they get married before becomeing intimate. A couple should at least be able to understand each other if not speak the same language in bed.